!Truth Bomb! People Treat You the Way You Treat You.

Marinna Ri Siri
7 days ago
3 min read

We grow up hearing,

“Treat others how you want to be treated.”

And while kindness is a beautiful principle, it’s not the full picture, because many of us have treated others with deep care… and still ended up feeling overlooked, dismissed, or even disrespected.

Here’s the deeper truth:

You don’t get treated the way you treat others. You get treated the way you treat yourself.

It's the Law of Attraction in play here.

If I constantly abandon my own needs, I’ll attract people who do the same.
If I silence my truth, others will ignore it too.
If I’m harsh or critical with myself, I’ll tolerate the same energy from someone else.

This isn’t about blame. It’s about you standing and living in your power.

Self-Love Changes the Way You Love Others

When I treat myself with love, something radical and incredibly whole-istic happens: It becomes so much easier to treat others with love, too. Not self-sacrificing love. But a kind of grounded, clear, healthy love that isn’t rooted in needing something in return.

The more I practice respecting my own needs, emotions, and voice… the more I naturally respect the same in others. It creates a ripple effect, not because I’m trying harder, but because I’m living from a deeper alignment within myself.

And You Stop Tolerating What You Used To

When I treat myself with love, I stop putting up with things I used to justify, excuse, or absorb.

Because love isn’t just soft. It’s also a boundary. It knows what’s no longer a match.

And I’ve seen this in countless clients and in myself: When we love and honor ourselves, our relationships either rise to meet us… or fall away because they no longer reflect who we are.

You might feel sad about this and if you look deep within, this could be the very reason you tolerate inauthentic relationships.

But Im here to tell you... that’s not loss, its alignment. And, if you are ever faced with this, by the time you get there, you won't want to hang onto something that feels so out of alignment. (But I veer off track. This is another blog post I'll write at some point.) Back on track...

But What About Selfish People?

You may be wondering: Why do selfish people seem to get their needs met so easily?

It can feel unfair, especially when you’ve spent your life giving, sacrificing, and trying to “do the right thing.”

But here’s the thing:

Selfish people get their needs met not because they’re selfish… but because they’re committed to meeting their needs.

When you look after yourself, life tends to look after you.

However, selfishness lacks heart and it doesn’t create deep connection. It might get you what you want… but not what your soul longs for.

True self-love isn’t selfish. It’s the opposite. It teaches you to give and receive in ways that honor everyone, including you.

And when that happens, the quality of your relationships transform. Not through force. Not through performance. But because you’re finally meeting you and everything around you starts to reflect that.