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Everything You Want Is In Front Of You But You Can't See It


Have you ever longed for something in your relationship—appreciation, love, support—only to feel like you’re not getting it? What if the real issue isn’t that it’s missing, but that you can’t see it?


We don’t experience life as it truly is—we experience it through the filter of our beliefs. And those beliefs, often shaped in childhood, can blind us to what’s actually available. If we were conditioned to expect lack, rejection, or unworthiness, we unconsciously scan for proof of it—while filtering out anything that contradicts it.


But here’s the thing: Life isn’t withholding from us. We are withholding from ourselves. And until we challenge those filters, we’ll continue to miss what’s been here all along.


How We Get Stuck in a Story

From the time we were little, we absorbed messages about what was possible for us. If we grew up feeling unseen, we might expect to be overlooked—even when someone is trying to be present. If we were taught that love has to be earned, we might dismiss effortless affection.


It’s not just relationships—this happens in every area of life. If we were imprinted with scarcity, we might not recognize the abundance already surrounding us. If we were told we had to prove our worth, we may reject ease and flow, assuming things must be hard.

But these are just stories. They aren’t the truth.


Unwinding the Story to See the Truth

The goal isn’t to slap a new story on top of the old one—it’s to see through the illusion of the story itself. If a belief isn’t the full truth, then what is?

Here’s how to start unraveling it:

1. Notice the Story You’re Stuck In

  • What do you keep telling yourself about your relationship?

  • What do you believe your partner isn’t giving you?

  • Where do you feel unseen, unsupported, or unloved?

Write it down. Get clear on the pattern.

2. Ask: What Else Could Be True?

  • Could my partner actually be showing me love in ways I haven’t noticed?

  • Could life already be offering me more than I thought possible?

  • Could my belief be filtering out a deeper truth?

This isn’t about replacing your story—it’s about recognizing that you don’t see the whole picture.

3. Look for Evidence of What You’ve Been Missing

  • Think back—are there moments when your partner tried to connect, but it didn’t land for you?

  • Are there signs of support, love, and abundance in your life that you’ve been overlooking?

  • What happens when you soften your assumptions and allow yourself to see more?

4. Stop Looking for Confirmation of the Old Story

  • If you expect rejection, you’ll find it—even in neutral situations.

  • If you assume you’re unappreciated, no amount of gratitude will feel like enough.

  • What if you stopped looking for proof that your old belief is true and just got curious about what’s really there?

5. Go Beyond the Story—What’s the Deepest Truth?

  • Beneath all the beliefs, you are already whole, already worthy, already deeply loved.

  • Life is always offering more than our minds can comprehend.

  • The moment you stop clinging to the old filter, you start seeing reality—not just the small version your mind created.


The Truth is Bigger Than We Thought

You don’t have to rewrite your story—you just have to see through it. When you stop assuming you already know the limits of what’s possible, a whole new world opens up. Love, support, abundance… they aren’t missing. You’re just now learning how to see them.



Want to Deepen Your Connection?

If you’re ready to break free from old patterns and open yourself to a deeper, more fulfilling relationship, check out SimplyRelatable.com. You don’t have to settle for the same stuck stories—real connection is possible when you see what’s truly there.

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