Trust Is Earned, Not Demanded and Not Blindly Given

You know that moment when you want to trust someone, but their actions keep making you question everything?

Maybe it’s someone who keeps letting you down, saying one thing but doing another. Maybe you keep giving chances, hoping your love will be enough to make them change. And maybe you’ve even started wondering if you’re the problem for wanting more.

But here’s the truth that gets glossed over way too often:

Trust isn’t about hoping someone changes. It’s about paying attention to what’s real, and choosing how you want to show up from there.

Share Your Thoughts and Feelings

Speaking Up Is About You—Not Them

When you share your thoughts, your feelings, your needs… it’s not about trying to get someone else to act differently. It’s about being someone who doesn’t silence their own voice just to make things more comfortable.

That’s self-love in action. That’s integrity.

You don’t speak because you’re trying to control or fix someone. You speak because you matter. Your experience matters. And when you stop shutting down just to keep the peace, you stop betraying yourself in the process.

Also, the moment you "shut up" in your relationships, is the moment you begin drifting apart.

Becoming a Person You Can Count On

Want to build real trust in your life? Start with you.

• Are you being honest with yourself?

• Do you say “yes” when you mean “no”?

• Do you follow through with what you say you'll do with yourself and others?

  
  

The more consistent you are with yourself, the more grounded and clear you’ll feel in your relationships. You stop second-guessing. You stop waiting on someone else to prove something. Because you already know where you stand.

How to Give Someone the Best Chance to Rise

Sometimes we’re quick to focus on everything someone isn’t doing. But if you really want to give a relationship the best possible chance, here’s something powerful:

Start appreciating what is working.

It’s wild how much people can soften and rise when they feel seen and valued.

No, this doesn’t mean tolerating bad behavior or sugar-coating real issues. But appreciation creates an opening. It invites someone into their best self, instead of constantly reminding them they’re falling short.

Real Talk: You Can’t Heal What You’re Avoiding

Let’s just say it plainly: You don’t need to beg for someone to be different. You don’t need to pretend you're okay with behavior that doesn’t align with love and integrity.

You get to speak. You get to choose.And you get to come back to you.

Because when you start trusting yourself, really trusting yourself, everything begins to change.

Your Turn:

What’s one way you can honor yourself today? Maybe it’s saying something you’ve been holding back. Maybe it’s keeping a promise to yourself. Maybe it’s simply not pretending you’re fine when you’re not.

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